Gypsy, as always, love your writing and insights. Like cookie, I am in awe of what you were able to accomplish with your father. I was able to forgive my mother after she died, but I don't know if I could have even wrapped my head around the real damage before that, let alone be able to look her in the face and let it go. That is an incredible amount of strength.
So many good things lie ahead of you, and I am sure that your prayers are heard. I hope we can get together for tea or whatnot soon.
Remind me how old your D is...? Maybe we can get together with kids in tow.