Thank you again. I will go get that book and check out the website you recommended. I have looked at the stages over and over and I think she is at the beginning of withdrawal. She wont talk to me about R, she says she needs to think, she is angry sometimes and taking it out on me. Then at the snap of the fingers she is sad.

I see flashes of the old her there sometimes and it gives me hope. But not enough to bring me out of my fear of her walking out the door. I will stay strong for my children and take care of myself. Today is exactly 9 years since our first date and I don't think she even thought twice about it. Makes me sad.

Thanks again for your help.


Married 10/12/2002
Me 35 Ring On
Her 29 Ring Off
D 4
S 2
Don't know if I am in love with you 10/7/08
Kinda Separated 10/7/08
EA/OM 6/6/08

my current thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1623276&page=1&fpart=4