In answer to your questions (yes they are personal, but that's the good thing about an anonymous website):
1) I'm not sure exactly what you're asking with this one. Please clarify. 2) She says no, and I've never caught her doing so. 3) Nothing wrong with it, but an obsessive focus on it is harmful. 4) If you mean while we're having intercourse, I don't see how that is possible. Please clarify. 5) This has never been a problem.She usually has 2-3 orgasms before I have mine. We are somewhat different in size, so the skin/hair/muscle above my genitals is pressing into and stimulating her clitoris during intercourse fairly consistently. 6) If you mean manually, yes. This was more frequent when we were dating, as we did not have intercourse until a week before our wedding. 7) She'll do it for me briefly (not to orgasm) if I ask. I have done so for her in the past, but I've never been able to bring her to orgasm orally. My jaws tire out first.
To your last question, my wife isn't interested in reading as a general rule. She did so in college as was necessary for coursework, but she hardly ever reads of her own choice. However, she's mentioned that from time to time she has flipped through some of the books on the shelf that I've given over to marriage, sexuality, and so forth.
Finally, what is AASECT? I generally don't click on links without knowing where I'm headed first.
