Hi Sandi2 - since posting that original script I have been dbing and SPM and ESKY and others gave very good advice and support.
So all truth out now to H. So me , H and OM know truth of A. OMW does not. It has been 4 years. My H says he will one day soon confront both OM and OMW with it.
Devastating consequences for me and family and friends. So who knows whats around the corner.
One of the best pieces of advice i have recieved is " Treat him like you are not married " Works for me in bursts and if i keep focused. That way I treat him like everyone else ie with respect. I am trying to back off helping hid R with kids etc.
I actually feel more in control of my own life as well. But I do still have weak moments and backslide a bit. I also get confused with some situations.
All in all this site has been a life saver i feel.
