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She has done the same thing mine did.

Painted such a nice picture of still being a family, but just with two households. Two loving parents, just not together.


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I told you long time ago... didn't I... same scenarios...


WE MUST HAVE MARRIED SISTERS SEPARATED AT BIRTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! \:D



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W leaves tomorrow for 8 days. Nice focus on the k's eh? Why didn't she cancel given where things are at home? Even friends have asked her that.

Not sure if I am going to say have a nice trip or not. We will see.


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Originally Posted By: lost_in_space
W leaves tomorrow for 8 days. Nice focus on the k's eh? Why didn't she cancel given where things are at home? Even friends have asked her that.

Yep, my W went away to a massage retreat she couldn't afford, missing 7 days of work she can't afford to miss and cried poverty to me when I asked her to pay her $60 weekly 'share' of our family plan cell phone and our car insurance.

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Not sure if I am going to say have a nice trip or not. We will see.


I didn't. \:D Why would you? Just say nothing. The less you say, the more she will 'fill in the blanks' using her own insecurities. Think about it. Just like you 'fill in the blanks' when she says or does something, she will do the same. Silence has a lot of power.


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Originally Posted By: frank_D
Originally Posted By: lost_in_space

Not sure if I am going to say have a nice trip or not. We will see.


I didn't. \:D Why would you? Just say nothing. The less you say, the more she will 'fill in the blanks' using her own insecurities. Think about it. Just like you 'fill in the blanks' when she says or does something, she will do the same. Silence has a lot of power.


Frank,
I hear you on that. Just don't know. How would I treat an acquaintance? Would say have a safe trip.

Just don't know.


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Well if you want to be silent, as she is getting ready to go look her in the face, give her a quick but firm hug and then offer to take her bags out for her.

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Kat, she will be leaving while I am at work. Only possible means om communication would be phone or text.

Hugs, at this point, are not really an option...


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It was just the idea of the gesture without having to say anything. Just thinking of options for you. Hugs.

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I was thinking of a text - but that is expected. I may call with a simple "Just wanted to say hope you have safe travels" or something like that.


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Do what you want to do......don't think of it as a "head game" for her. If you want to call and wish her a safe trip, you should. Choosing to love her even when she isn't showing love to you, is commendable. You know she won't appreciate a call/text right now...but, does that matter? You get to decide whether you choose to love.

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