Hope you are absolutely right, but like I said I really want to go about it the right way. Maybe DB coach will have some ideas for me.
I saw Fireproof on Saturday. I went by myself. God I wish our H's could see that movie. Anyway, the scene where H confronts OM. I know the rulebooks say not to confront them , but after I left the movie , got in my car and wrote a letter to OW on a napkin. I dont know if Ill ever send it. Id like to be able to say all of it to her in person. My grandma thinks I should give it to her b/c OW probably thinks I dont care and I need to let her know. But anyway, here's what I worked on......
OW, I want you to know as I quietly stand by, I am still fighting for my marriage, fighting to forgive, and to be forgiven. I let go of H not b/c I wanted to, but b/c it is what he wants and it is what he needs. He is confused and struggling inside with immense pain and hurt which only God can heal - not you and not even me. You had the courage and enough respect for yourself and your children to take a stand and set the boundaries in your relationship with your H. And for that I have respect. but other than that, what do you REALLY want? I wonder if you really know. You and my H cannot give to each other what you don't already have - and that is happiness. So for now I leave it in God's hands. He has all the answers and with God there is happiness.
Too nice, huh? Ill probably just add it to the collection of letters I havent already sent.
me -36 H -38 M 16yr T 21yr S14 D11 S11 ( twins) IDLYA 6/18 H moved out 6/19 H consulted atty little over 1 mo ago Still havent been "served"
