Sounds like you are taking a firmer stance. Your W might show some anger but she will begin to have more respect for you when she knows you are strong, taking care of business and moving on.
Keep the kids out of it completely and diffuse the inevitable drama. Keep the MIL at bay and don't take the bait from her or anyone else.
Show no weakness. None. Set your boundaries and what you will put up with. Make it clear to your W that the OM business is unacceptable and that there is no chance for progress as along as the OM is on the scene.
Dating sites, dating etc...if it is a manipulation on your part or your children's part, it is a no no. If you want to have a platonic date as this point, then just do it with no fanfare,drama and anyone elses opinion. Don't do it with anyone your W knows.
I'm dating right now and it is wonderful. I met a woman and we connect on many levels. I had an outrageously great weekend. No pressure or expectations. Just lots of fun. I'm living life again and never imagined it would be this much fun. The last couple of years of my marriage were deceptive and my perceptions were warped. The MLC/WAW can drain you. My tank was empty. I'm now filling it back up and it feels very nice.
There are worse things than divorce. There is life after divorce. People told me this and I didn't believe them but they were right.
Good luck. Respect yourself and be good to yourself. You deserve it. You deserve to be respected ( as does everyone else). What your W is doing is disrepectful to you, your kids and the institution of marriage. Don't play her game. Be better than that.
Take care.
Last edited by thrillisgone; 10/21/0803:26 AM.
Me- 47 W- 45 Married 22 years Together 30 years No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat 2005 - 2007 W in MLT 1/08 - Crisis hits 3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA 4/08 W files for divorce 8/08 Divorce final
