After tonight's quarrel over $$$ and the fact that she obligated herself to rent and debts beyond what she can pay*, and her accusation of 'unfairness', my friend suggested I go dark.

We discussed what it really might look like. He suggested 'dropping the rope' which scares me to death. I am worried if I let go, then it will truly be over.

In fact, if I don't help her out and she doesn't take a roommate, she will lose the apt. I don't know what to do....any thoughts ?

*I sent her some financial info about our present debts and I am paying more on our shared obligations than she is on our mortgage (the bank won't let her out of the automatic draft. Because of this, I am paying all our shared debt, and she is paying the mortgate of $1400. This was supposed to be equitable, in fact, she thought that shared debt came to $800, but I sent her info a month ago (before lease) that clearly showed that it would easily be at least $1200+/mo. In fact, it ended up being about $1700 for Sept.that I paid.

Last edited by native; 10/21/08 03:13 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09