Mike as you mentioned, in fact H blames much of this on his mom and dad. His dad did not work hard enough to provide for his mom, he hated seeing her 'suffer' in that way. His parents argued all the time, his dad would get mean and his mom would cry. He HATED seeing her cry so he hates it when I cry b/c it makes him feel like he is being his dad and I am being his mom. He hated growing up watching them be so bad together, but not fixing it and also not divorcing. I told him many times we didn't have to be them, we didn't have to just live that way for 40 years, we could change for the better.
and ya know BBJ..it pisses me off that I know this. It pisses me off to know that I was such an ass. It pisses me off that I know how he thinks and it pisses me off that I can't offer you suggestions on how to deal with this.
