Back to life, back to reality?

[optimistwife]

I am so sorry that he is all over the place emotionally. But just remember that- he is all over the place! Good/bad, high/low, stay for a while, go now.

I don't know exactly what advice to give you except it sounds like for the short term you have to actually be separated again. It doesn't sound like being at home right now is a good thing for your relationship. His comments sound mean (and I've heard some of them too- even if they are jokes they hurt me just reading them, and make me hurt for you too).

Is there any way that you can live nearby long term while you work on things? I know they always stay to live together if possible, but if it keeps going like this... Maybe if you are nearby you can start dating slowly- it sounds like this step is lacking- you are trying to jump right from being gone to being back to married.

This would give you more allure and mystery, cause right now you are trying too hard! And you are driving him nuts! I'm sorry- but I've been there and done that... It didn't work for me either.

I hope you can get away from the situation tonight or tomorrow- cry and clear your head. You are in my thoughts! Stay strong! Cry all your weaknesses out and realize that you are going to get another chance tomorrow- I would bet money that he isn't going away overnight... no matter what he says.

There IS Hope!