Welcome to divorcebusting.com! You have a complicated situation, but I'm glad you found us.
I'm really sorry to hear about your cancer and the complications that have come with that. You have way more than your share to deal with.
I am a little confused over the sequence of events in your posts...I think you are saying the order of protection was THIS past september, but it is unfounded...her claims of domestic violence or fear of that is just a ploy?
So you've been ordered not to make contact with your wife....there is a technique in Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy called The Last Resort Technique (search that on this site) ... follow that until you talk with your Coach.
btw---When will your coaching session take place?
Take heart.....it isn't hopeless. And take really good care of yourself. I imagine you try to maximize your good days.
I will keep you in my prayers.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001