Francis, you have been nothing but vague when it comes to providing a bit of background and some history. You also don't know what you want: to try to save the M or to D.
Seeing an A is always the end of the road. For some, it's a protective thing if things are bad and they are separated. A division of who pays what/does what type of thing to make sure some basic tasks are handled during the separation to ease the stress a bit. For others, it's obtaining a consult to learn what their options are. For even others, it's an appointment to file.
That said, there's a policy of no more emails/trading personal info on the board.
Also... I realize you're probably being self-protective. But no one can really help you here unless you begin to help yourself. Provide us just a summary of what's happened and where you're headed. Give us a clue of what you might like to have happen here. If you want to save your M, the GF needs to go permanently. Being alone isn't a bad thing either. Sometimes, the silence does open you up to learning...
