I need help with this!

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Hi faithrunner, I saw your stich in another post and then noticed you started this one.

I too struggle very much with snooping and it does make me crazy. I need to drop the rope on this and really step back. Problem is H works with me in the same building and we go to the same meetings or I see him in the hallway. The worst is the OW works directly for him and I run into her also. Sometimes I am ready to go over the edge with this.

Since I used to obsess about them sneaking off for lunch, I joined the gym and go to work out and do yoga 3/4 times a week. It keeps me busy and it does help me not trying to follow them.

As far as GAL, I worry that my H is happy about that also because sometimes I think I have truly moved on and then he will ask for D. Pretty depressing.

So far even though my H is so far gone in this A with OW since June, I am hoping it burns out in the end. I have 21 years invested in this M and don't want to give up already.

One day is good and the next is terrible. I cry all the time (most times alone) but it is a lonely struggle. We moved here 2 years ago and I have no family here at all.

A good book that I am reading is "surviving an affair" there is a good section about Plan A/Plan B that T2L is following with some good results. Read her old stichs.

take care