His life is about to get much, much worse. MIL has been having medical problems, kidney/bladder infection that never seemed to heal...she just called me at almost 9 at night to say that she went to the dr. today for the ultrasound and other tests.
She has a tumor in her bladder and the doc says 99% chance cancer. H doesn't know yet...
Mike as you mentioned, in fact H blames much of this on his mom and dad. His dad did not work hard enough to provide for his mom, he hated seeing her 'suffer' in that way. His parents argued all the time, his dad would get mean and his mom would cry. He HATED seeing her cry so he hates it when I cry b/c it makes him feel like he is being his dad and I am being his mom. He hated growing up watching them be so bad together, but not fixing it and also not divorcing. I told him many times we didn't have to be them, we didn't have to just live that way for 40 years, we could change for the better.
Anyway my point is he does blame his parents for the way he was raised and what he "went through" as a child/teenager. So he will feel ultra guilty that his mom has cancer and he is secretly blaming her/resenting her all this time.
I don't know what he will do, how he will react, but I doubt it will be good.......
