Twinhope you might be at the point to go NC except for the kids and finances. Especially if H still depends on you. Let him see what it is like if he did not have you to talk too. Look at some of the earlier posts that T2L put up with NC etc. It might help to review them.

Has the Ow seen the twins? what 21 year old wants to be strapped with someone else's kids. I just don't get that. I don't think she has a clue yet. Your H does not come by himself he is a package deal, and that is when all the romance goes out of their little A.

Also thanks everyone about the wedding bands. I am still wearing mine. At least when i see OW I make sure she sees it. I am sure it aggravates her.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09