Is she is or is she ain't (my baby)?

[sleeper]

Thanks Breton, I will.

I've stopped initiating contact. We do have contact because of kids or if she contacts me. I don't always answer phone or return calls. I've noticed she rarely leaves a message. Can't help but wonder if the purpose of the call was actual contact with me rather than information exchange.

I picked up kids from school today because of after school activities. When I took kids to her a little while ago OM was there, the table was set for four. I had to talk over some things about the kids with X. The three of us were in the kitchen and he was standing there like preverbially useless...... You get the picture. At one point while X and I were discussing kids he may have sensed it as he left the room.

Sometimes I'm torn between increasing contact when he is around to reduce his comfort level (I obviously affect it and have been told so by X and others) and being less available to X. Maybe I should try to do both. I have no reason to have contact with her again until Friday and will avoid direct contact with her until then.

More relationship doublespeak today. X was talking about "us" taking out a loan. Our financial separation is still not complete although her L has everything he needs and the ball is in her court. I am tempted to push for finanlization. I don't know if she is afraid to let go completely (it's the only thing she has left to hold over my head) or she is having second thoughts about cutting all ties. The shakey economy may be playing a role as my job is recession proof and hers is the opposite.

I believe X's case of mlc was extremely severe. Anger stage lasted a long time (and really hurt) followed by lots of cycling. I believe she is just now reaching the point where she is major cake-eating, getting some of her needs met by both me and OM; I'm the "family" guy, he's the "fun" guy.

Or is he the "fungi"?