Dear Joe, no sweetie, I'm not going to "let you have it" b/c I know you are in enough pain as it is. I do see in your post where your emotions are all over the place, but then I suppose they have a right to be. Before you just tell her to get out or that you are selling the house, or see a lawyer or whatever.....I wish you would completely "drop the rope". I mean all the way. Tell her she is free and you won't stop her from doing whatever she wants to do and that you are tired of the fighting and trying to hold things together. But, continue to be the best Joe that you can be! The reason I am saying this....and the only reason (b/c it is a risk)is b/c of the people that have said that is what brought them to their senses. If you feel that there is nothing else to be gained, then what do you have to lose? Try dropping the rope as described in Michelle's book. Give it some time like that and see what happens. Continue to work on the basement and by the time you get everything fixed up, maybe you will know more about where things are headed.

Don't go and get crazy with some other woman that flirts with you or even has a reasonable conversation b/c you are very vulnerable and could cave rather easily, I think. After all, you are a man.....and have needs, so it would be easy when you have been rejected and hurt. So, be careful, Joe.

Take care,
Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!