I need help with this!

[faithrunner]

Sandi, thank you so much for responding! I have read your wise posts to others and am grateful for your advice.

The snooping ends now. You are right, and it makes me feel terrible afterward. I hate not being able to trust my H, esp when he seems to be overcompensating by giving me info on every evening, every work day, etc. But, now I know what I am working against, so I'll try turning it into a positive. I am also a faithful person and am trying to treat him with compassion and not grow in resentment of him.

Tonight went well, I think. He called me on my way to pick up our kids, I let it go to voicemail. He said he hoped I had a good day and to call him back. I waited until I had the kids, then I let them say hi, he said he'd be home soon and I said bye. We played with the kids and had dinner. I've been doing well with #15, he asks me if I'm ok all the time and I try to let him start most conversations I need to get better about babbling about myself-that would be a good 180 for me. It's just that he asks about my day all the time, like he thinks there's something I'm not telling him, so I babble on.

Anyway, while we were putting the kids to bed he took an extended bathroom break, probably to text OW. That drives me nuts! I didn't mention it, but I absolutely hate it. It really hurts.

He sat and watched tv with me for about 20min and then said he was tired and going to go (he has about a 45min drive). He apologized for acting grumpy lately, and for leaving early in the afternoon yesterday. I said he did look sick (he looked terrible by the time he left, but anxious and sick together, and commented that he felt like he was having a "mental breakdown" and needed to rest). He'll be back at 6:30am tomorrow to help get the kids out to school.

Tomorrow night I have plans with friends, so H will be home with the kids. Sandi, any idea why he is actively encouraging me to GAL? I was never the sit at home type, so this isn't a 180 for me. I'll make sure to look my best when I get home tomorrow night, and I'll let you know how it goes.

Thank you again!
Faithrunner