It sure sounds like he's trying to make you hate him. He wants to say he "tried" but you're just too different. Something else is going on. This had NOTHING to do with bed time (except his control issues)and he doesn't even want to ADMIT that you want to be part of his life and share his interests because, well, that would make him wrong and he'd have to try and he doesn't want to.
He's such a mess. It's such a shame because he had it all. I actually feel sorry for him because he is losing/has lost so much and when he finally gets it, and he will, it'll be too late.
But then it hits me. He is lying through his teeth to you. Feel sorry for him? Ha. Maybe I'm projecting my own previous fears, but it sure worked out well for him that you moved his children close enough to keep a protective eye on them and allow his parents to lose nothing. Maybe I'm full of crap with this line of thinking but his behavior just screams of someone trying his hardest not to let this work.
Let him fly? Time for you to fly (ala eagles, I'm old)!
