D and I were early to the restaurant and were waiting in the doorway when XW and new BF came in. BF introduced himself to me and we shook hands and the like. He seemed ok...I do have to say, he isn't anything special. I think he's safe and secure for XW which is why she's w/ him.
Anyway, XW started to tell me the things she's working on (selling the ring she wanted for Christmas, etc.) and then she said she didn't stay at the house too long on Friday b/c she was "overwhelmed" w/ being there. I told her I understood and don't want to be there myself. I talked about a few things and joked about how she always orders the same thing in a restaurant, and she started to get emotional and cry.
WTF!!!???? How is this woman operating a new R.. she actually started to cry in front of you all !?? And why is she doing the handover with Grace in a restaurant, with her L and her 4 year old D and HER NEW BF !??? It beggars belief. None of the above scenario should be happening.. Grace must feel like someones popped her head off and stuck it back on upside down and inside out. Sorry, cos she is your D and that must worry you.. but seriously, WTF!
I am not surprised the new BF is 'safe' he is probs a bit of a dork.. after the latest changes in her life, I dont suppose she is going to be ready or sorted enough for an adult, equal R, just someone nice and reliable right.
And also.. she started chatting to you about what she's been up to including SELLING HER RING!??? Why did she feel it necessary to drop that into the conversation? Thats ridiculously insensitive.
Your W sounds very bitter Rob. I am guessing that this is not the end of it.. give her a few months, and you will be getting late night tearful phonecalls from her, raging or guilty, I dont know, but she sounds kind of emotionally unstable. I dont think she will be getting the happy ever after with this guy and would you date a woman who was JUST D and bursts into tears in front of her ex? I mean, thats not a good sign now is it !
Maybe it was as you say, becuase you seemed unaffected and shook his hand? I am amazed she bought him along to meet you, so soon after the D, that is kind of cruel, if not just crass and unnecessary. And what happened to The Snake and RandomBackOfficeApartmentComplex guy? She is on BF no 3 and the ink is barely dry on the paperwork. Honestly, if the world just full of unenlightened emotional cripples !?? (apologies to your W)
Sorry for ranting, but honstly, the things you have had to deal with ...You are clearly growing and your posts have grown warmer and more self aware since I first began posting, the changes in you are obvious, and are on the inside. The changes in your W seem to be external only.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
