Yes, the numbering is off.. I'm fixing it with this post.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Michelle - my other thread's locked now so I'll reply here - hope you can make it to TSO! I really love that show.
Hope everyone's doing well. I got home before 6 last night - it was even still light outside - woo hoo! The week is looking up.
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Since I finally managed to post an update and then my thread locked... thought I'd repost it here.
Things are continuing to go well, just incredibly hectic! H's job has slowed down sooo much and mine has just about doubled in workload. Too bad he's the one who gets paid by the job! I've been lucky to get home before 7 most nights.. ugh. Better than not having a job though, that's for sure.
Saturday did a little pampering during the day.. ahh.
Saturday afternoon/evening we went to a surprise 40th anniversary party that a good friend of H's had for his parents. Pretty neat. They had lots of friends and family there and really enjoyed the night. Their daughter made tons of delicious gourmet appetizers and their son (H's friend for probably almost 30 years now) cooked an equally delicious dinner. We told them they should get into catering! We stayed there and visited for most of the night. And in spite of the "theme" it wasn't too weird.. I was afraid it would dredge up a lot of emotions for me and/or H.
It's going to be an eventful few weeks!
Next weekend we're letting some friends use our house for their wedding reception, so this week will be a lot of getting ready for that. They are getting married much earlier than planned because the H joined the military and they wanted to be married before he leaves for training. They had planned the wedding at a little place right up the street from us but weren't going to have much of a reception - about an hour for cake, the traditional dances, etc. and that was it.
I have no idea what prompted my H to even offer this but he heard the guy talking about it and how he's sad that 1. they have to limit the ceremony guests so much and 2. they don't get to really have a "party" part to the reception. So.. he volunteered our house! Technically they're doing all the prep work along with their friends, but of course I can't keep myself TOTALLY out of it so I'll help them set up and stuff. The younger people from the ceremony are coming, along with some of their friends who they couldn't accommodate for the ceremony, so that's pretty cool.
It's kind of weird because H and I actually got married in our own backyard. We're lending them a lot of our lights, candles, etc. and it's been a little emotional seeing the yard look somewhat "wedding like" again. Especially when the W-to-be asked to see pics from our wedding so she could get some ideas. Although when we've talked about memories it prompted H has been totally positive - reminiscing about how beautiful it was etc. That's been wonderful.
The weekend after that... I have an appointment and lunch in the bay area with my Mom and Bro, then we're rushing back to meet up with H so he and I can go to Tahoe for his Mom's 60th. She decided on this plan well after I'd committed to the appt. with my Mom and Bro so it's kinda a scramble. The nice thing is, both MIL and SIL made a BIG deal about wanting me there and they'd wait for me to get back. I had even offered to drive up separately and they said "No way!" Quite the change from last year when we hadn't spoken for months and were figuring out how to avoid each other for Thanksgiving eh?
The next weekend is H's final race of the season, in Southern CA.
Weekend after that is Trans Siberian orchestra (TSO) with my Mom and H. It's been a tradition with my Mom for years and we've both tried to get H to go. I think he'll really enjoy it! We finally talked him into it this year. 2 years ago it was only about 5-6 weeks post bomb and I remember fighting all night to keep it together while my Mom kept looking at me helplessly. At one point I said "Well one good thing, I figure by next year it'll either be over with H or a helluva lot better." Then last year... TSO was about 5-6 weeks post 2nd bomb. At the concert I said "Well, guess I was wrong about what I said last year!" So this is a pretty big deal to me both that things are so much better, and that H is going.
Then... Thanksgiving which we've decided to host at our house. Last year was me, my friend, and her dog and we had a wonderful time. This year, looking forward to a wonderful time with the "big family dinner."
And we all know what happens after Thanksgiving - whoooooosh and before you know it it'll be Christmas and then our New Year's party!
We are hosting so many things the next few months, I think we may be insane! And I am sooo happy for it.
I try not to do TOO much looking back, but it's sure an amazing contrast to look at 2 years ago vs. 1 year vs. today.
OK finally an update and I get all wordy!! I know.. me?.. never!
Thanks all for checking in. I hope to be on a little bit more soon to offer support and hugs, but not sure how likely that is given everything that's going on. Maybe if I finally start actually having a lunch hour again though.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Jak - I forgot to thank you for the reminder to relax some, too! I was thinking that last night. I need to practically mark off "SLOW DOWN" on the calendar for a few days I think.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
You are always on the go like me and I have to think about that constantly. I even called into my second job today to relax. (and also to let them know that I won't let them walk all over me long story)
I feel sometimes that H and I will or are reverting back to everything else coming first and us last. I know H is stressed too with all of the work around the house that needs to still be done and he worked two jobs too until last week so at least he should have more time now to take care of those and deal with his Mom.
What we have to remember is that we need to come first in order to better help everyone else.
Take care of your self!!! JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
oh my gosh! 32 threads????? wow. I'm like on number 3.
So cool about H offering your house for the wedding! Just the fact that he's doing that says a lot to me. Remember long ago when someone was getting M or something and he acted all weird on you, or I really can't remember, but SOMETHING happened that he acted depressed about or wierd or something. such a bad memory I have.
also so cool he's attending the concert! I remember that last year and I can't believe it's been a whole year already. wow. time has gone by so fast!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
