I think what she is telling me is that it's not worth it. Not with the wife's family history.
I wonder this sometimes too. My H's family history. Everyone in his family has multiple divorces and affairs including his parents. He also parents like his parents, they were both absent workaholic parents. His dad worked 80 hours a week or so as an L, and his mom was a college professor and worked on her doctorate in her "spare" time. They were raised a lot by a nanny. Maybe that kind of stuff can't be overcome, esp. if they don't want to and maybe don't even realize what they are like/doing.... Karen
