I am sharing this with you only because there really is such a thing as MLC, and I honestly don't believe that the MLC'er can help themselves with the bad choices they make.
So how do they get help??? If they can't help themselves, and we can't help them....is there no help for some?
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
In every case that I know that has been successful...they get help through prayer. Someone was praying for them to keep them above water until they could get healthy enough to get through it on their own. I don't mean just a little prayer said in passing and just thinking about it. I mean the person praying was on their knees for a long time - years - praying that God would get the spouse/child through it. It takes a long time. Adolescence takes a long time.
Let me ask you a question. If this was your teenager putting you through this would you walk away? Some of you would - I know that - we see on the news about parents walking away from their kids every day. BUT if you wouldn't walk away from your kids why are you giving up on your spouses? Because you expect your spouse to know better?! If that's the case, then you don't understand what your spouse is going through. We have patience for our kids and we put up with a lot from them and we pray from them every day... Doesn't your spouse deserve the same?
Okay - sorry to have taken over.
Fireproof - prayer and lots of it. Not just you but family and friends praying too.
In every case that I know that has been successful...they get help through prayer. Someone was praying for them to keep them above water until they could get healthy enough to get through it on their own. I don't mean just a little prayer said in passing and just thinking about it. I mean the person praying was on their knees for a long time - years - praying that God would get the spouse/child through it. It takes a long time. Adolescence takes a long time.
Let me ask you a question. If this was your teenager putting you through this would you walk away? Some of you would - I know that - we see on the news about parents walking away from their kids every day. BUT if you wouldn't walk away from your kids why are you giving up on your spouses? Because you expect your spouse to know better?! If that's the case, then you don't understand what your spouse is going through. We have patience for our kids and we put up with a lot from them and we pray from them every day... Doesn't your spouse deserve the same?
Okay - sorry to have taken over.
Fireproof - prayer and lots of it. Not just you but family and friends praying too.
In every case that I know that has been successful...they get help through prayer. Someone was praying for them to keep them above water until they could get healthy enough to get through it on their own. I don't mean just a little prayer said in passing and just thinking about it. I mean the person praying was on their knees for a long time - years - praying that God would get the spouse/child through it. It takes a long time. Adolescence takes a long time.
Let me ask you a question. If this was your teenager putting you through this would you walk away? Some of you would - I know that - we see on the news about parents walking away from their kids every day. BUT if you wouldn't walk away from your kids why are you giving up on your spouses? Because you expect your spouse to know better?! If that's the case, then you don't understand what your spouse is going through. We have patience for our kids and we put up with a lot from them and we pray from them every day... Doesn't your spouse deserve the same?
Okay - sorry to have taken over.
Fireproof - prayer and lots of it. Not just you but family and friends praying too.
That's the kind of fire these boards have lacked for a long time.
To amyC....the key ..I think..for you..and like most others is the RECOGNITION of a problem...and the desire to repair it. Honestly, I think my W truly has forgotten many things in our M.
To Snowmm...thanks for coming onto the thread. I wish it were as 'easy' as you post. Our spouses are NOT our children. They are adults. Although I admire your comments and understand where you are and SUPPORT YOU in your approach, I think it is comparing apples to oranges. The LBS has the huge responsibility of saving the M...here. It sometimes makes me wonder.....why....after a period of time? No need to give an explanation to that...I know the textbook response.
I am having a rough time. My W has been coming down hard on me of late. For a mild upset stomach..if it truly were....my W and I allowed my son to stay home from school today. He had a ceremony at religious school scheduled for 730. I keep a calendar in the kitchen...posted it a week or two ago. My W piles things on it all the time and the handwriting was slightly shmeared. Of course, she stopped writing ANYTHING on it weeks ago if not months.
Last night, my PDA alerted me to the meeting. Since my son didn't go to school, I drove home. This morning, my W confronted me about him missing the meeting last night. She called me a LIAR. Accused me of hiding stuff from her. Told her she was going to call her atty. I told her that since he missed school for a stomach ache, I thought he would be staying home. She called me a liar and told me that he could have gone. Needless to say I don't get told that my son is getting a new Cub Scout uniform nor that he had his first meeting last Friday.
My marriage is 100% dead. I live with anger and hate.
And, finally........
I received a notice from the Sheriff's office yesterday. My father-in-law filed a lien against me to get the mortgage payment back (I had repaid about a 1/4 of it).
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Hey..hijacking with football scores or Ringo is fine with me. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I received a notice from the Sheriff's office yesterday. My father-in-law filed a lien against me to get the mortgage payment back (I had repaid about a 1/4 of it).
