MWG, I just wanted to say that i am sorry you are in this position w/H medical-wise. It must be very difficult because you're concerned but you can't make him do anything.
Given that you have tried to help and have been rebuffed, you can't blame yourself here. It is your H's responsibility.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
