You certainly have it nailed down as to what I'm going through. Sadly, the road ahead sounds so dismal and hopeless. I am trying so hard to stay positive, but this is the most painful thing I have ever encountered. Her personality change is only apparent now for 3 or 4 months. I don't think there was an A before that. If I only knew back then that I needed to step up to the plate... but I've been blindsighted with no warning. All she had to do was say, hey we need to talk about what seems to be happening to us... but nothing! She is actually trying to re-invent history and say that "problems" go back "years", yet there was never any issues brought up for discussion. She now says that she did but I wasn't listening. Let me tell you that is a bald faced lie because I have a damn good memory and she also dropped the ball by in fact never raising issues up for discussion. I am so disgusted because I am SO confident that I can step up to the plate and we could soar to hights we've never even reached. But as long as there is an OM I feel that I am at a total disadvantage. Especially if they are intimate and we aren't. What cruelty! She seems completely insensitive to my broken heart and the void I feel from her not being connected anymore. And yet she seems to be relishing in her own selfishness and actually accuses ME of being selfish! Is that sick and twisted or what? Damn, isn't there any good books for WOMEN to read from an objective 3rd party that they can relate to and say "hey this is me", while the author says... but it is all wrong, open the door and give hubby a chance... if the OM will be leaving HIS wife doesn't that speak volumes about him?... If the OM has his own marital problems, what does that say about aspects of him that you don't yet know about... etc. I NEED her to start to read such a book and just maybe if it isn't coming from MY mouth, she might acquire a little bit of wisdom.
Anyway, I thank you so much for replying. I saw how the post was read but until yours there were no replies and I was not much encouraged by it..
Anyone..... are there any good books that could enlighted a W in this situation?
