Randy, sorry about the conversation you overheard. In a weird way, it was good you did. You are right. Now you have a clearer picture of what your dealing with.
Keep being strong for you and your kids is really all I can say. Keep in close contact with your L. It's all about protecting yourself and the kids from her. She is a goner.
For now.
You know that anything and everything you offer to her right now is going to get all turned around on you.
Be well, dude.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Randy, sorry about the conversation you overheard. In a weird way, it was good you did. You are right. Now you have a clearer picture of what your dealing with.
Keep being strong for you and your kids is really all I can say. Keep in close contact with your L. It's all about protecting yourself and the kids from her. She is a goner.
For now.
You know that anything and everything you offer to her right now is going to get all turned around on you.
Be well, dude.
Roger,
I know. I truly am looking forward to her leaving tomorrow. The peace in the house will be HEAVENLY.
I am expecting some lawyer volley today... wait and see...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
She is deep into the OM fog.....deeeeep. That's why it is nothing but anger towards you.
Hang in there, lis, and don't go to where she is at....anger. I know it will be hard, but just keep throwing in reality to her....Remind her that you love her, want to stay with her, want to repair....it's HER choice to give up.....Remain the voice of reason and love even when she is the one being so ugly. You can do this.
To avoid being angry I have to avoid her at times. Couldn't help it Sat night - I responded to some things she said in anger, but still tried to remain "me" focused (other than the purposeful darts thrown).
I am trying to remind her that I love her, not in words because she doesn't want that, but in actions.
There will be much more of the "HER choice" coming out in the next while.
Thank you. And by all means, keep kicking me in the a$$ when needed.
Like I said before, you are an angel!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
wdid I am trying to remind her that I love her, not in words because she doesn't want that, but in actions.
I think that's good. I think you're doing great, just don't want you to let her getting away with hurting/abusing you kind of stuff. For one thing, if she ever reconsidered and wanted to work on the M, then I think that would make it that much tougher for you to want to work on it at that point. And she needs to learn to respect you more as well, or grow up or whatever. Karen
