Nice to see some new posters to this stich. T2L, you got lots of catching up to do. Thanks for the info about the rings. I tried a couple times taking my off when I take a walk on the beach at night (sort of defiant behavior on my part), but now I find myself still attached to wearing it. I didn't leave the marriage, I am still committed and standing.
kat thanks for your thoughts. It took over 2 years to get where you did. I know you have accepted it and can move on in peace.
karen, my H too right now is pretty messed up, spending money like crazy and drinking, partying and of course being with the OW. I had seen someone write that they felt like their H is an alien. I feel that also right now. Once I awhile I see the fog lift up a bit.
Right now I am taking one step at a time. I have cried me a river but I am finally able to do most of that in private.
I always thought I would be H's wife, even though we drifted. I am trying to figure out what to do day by day.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
