BBJ I am so sorry about these new developements. I cam here today to respond to what you wrote over the weekend about you being the cause of him not getting to buy the farm he wanted. it may be a moot point now, but if I am not mistaken you have also mentioned an earlier A and at least one 1 night stand, right? What did you do to cause those?
Don't you see these problems lie with your H, not what you have done to cause his misery.
Someone above mentioned the LRT, maybe you should try that.
Best of luck to you...
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011