Yeah in terms of an EA, never know, I guess there could be. My thoughts on that are that he is likely getting lots of attention from women, and they are giving him a feeling I don't right now. There is a big part of me that wants to ask him about this, but I will bite my tongue unless he brings up something that makes me think.
I would REALLY rather not have any R talks with H whatsoever, and would be more than happy to just try and have things be nice and light between us for awhile, but he ALWAYS brings things up. Ali--you're right, I was pushing him for sure. I felt SO mad that this was going on at work and I kind of lost it.
I am not sure though about agreeing to exactly what he wants. Jody said that he will make decisions that are not in the best interest of the marriage, as he is so down on marriage right now. I do know that as I don't have the cards, I am not really in a position to ask for much. However, it seems that when we have these conversations, he does usually come around a bit about 1 thing or another. I will not keep harping on about the marriage, but I may say that in order for me to feel satisfied with my own decisions and where I am, I need to see what it is like to spend more time together. I will play this by ear. I can really only ask for something if I do so with complete lack of emotion and try to point out the benefits to him as well. Like I said, I somehow got him to believe that the trial living together sitch was completely his idea. The timeframe was, but not the living together part. These conversations are like a black hole though. I can never remember exactly what is said, and it seems as though they are not a part of reality.
Sep--I will definitely keep in mind the end goal. I think my issue here is that I am 100% convinced that living together is the right way to reach that goal. I just need to be very ninja-like with my conversational moves.
Thanks for the support ladies. I will post later, with hopefully GOOD news,
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
