You need to do what makes you feel good. I wore mine showing my H that I still believed in our marriage and was fighting for it. He took his off almost as soon as the affair started.
I never thought I would get to a place where I actually feel ok and sometimes really good again. Somehow I am there. I can't worry about what ex is doing or who he is doing it with. I just try to help my kids deal with this and try to create a better life for us. I don't see ex in my future plans except that he of course comes and gets the kids but I don't share a whole lot with him. He might as well just be the chauffer service that I hire.
Hang in there I have seen complete flip flops here. You just never know when they are going to happen!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory