Back to life, back to reality?

[AliSuddenly]

Its human nature, the harder you try and hold onto something, the more it trues to wriggle free. The fact that he said FIVE times on IM, I dont jnow if I can do this...seems you were placing a lof of pressure on him to agree to do this. I was also wondering if there were any EAs on teh scene, after my own experience, I cant believe how naive I was not to spot that...when a man is still got a foot in the R, but is not agreeing to really working on it, it seems that there is often an innappropriate R somewhere.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. I think refrain from telling him how you see things or how you think he feels about stuff or how you see it working (obviously he knows, you want to be with him, make it work, but you arent the one in the driving seat, sadly, in matters of love, there are often a balance of power at play)... so just say you are happy to talk about things if HE needs to, but otherwise you dont need to talk about stuff (this was Jody's advice to me). And then listen. And then agree to what he wants...even if it kills you. What choice do you have?

We are all here for you, wishing you luck ITH.

Al x