Oh, boy! Get busy for a weekend, and miss all the fun!
It seems that you H is projecting everything he doesn't like about anything onto you.... been there! He is still lost and confused.... he doesn't know what he want, let alone how to get there.
The incident about putting the kids to bed really gets me! Having gone through 4 two year olds, I remember that they don't tell time really well! You can plan, and schedule all you want, but they don't have to follow it! It just isn't worth getting angry over!
I hope your mom is ok, the eye injury sounds pretty bad.