The only explination I can come up with for my W wanting me to go to bed first is that she wants to be near me but does not want to be pressured into something else so its safer to avoid that temptation at night. Allow me to go to bed, fall asleep then she can come up without any worries. Then in the morning she does not have that same feeling that she could be pressured into doing something so she is more open to be intimate. Who really knows but why else do what she does? I told her several times that I do not want to have sex and I do not do anything to make her think otherwise but I feel that it is the underlying problem. JMO and since I can't read her mind I will never really know for sure.
Hi Tim,
Yep, you are right on the mark with this. IMHO, it has to do with old patterns (usually ML before going to sleep, not in the morning) so she knows the safest times to get what she wants and still control the situation between you.
Since you've been up front about ML, I wonder why she doesn't feel she can rely on your word? Or it could just be a control thing.
Hope all is going well with you - I'm reading, just not commenting much. (old friend here, new name). Sending good thoughts your way - you're doing great.
