I have actually just email H with that kind of sentiment, he knows I am not sleeping well, and asked me if I wanted him to leave. I don't, but I want things to change, and I told him that we are at a crossroads, which we can chose to go down to together, but if we chose that then we have to truly commit to this marriage, because I can't continue where I think he is only to find he isn't truly, I also said that there can never again be 3 of us in the marriage. So I await he response
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!