BobbiJo, Hi! Yes I am still alive and I'm still pulling for you. I'll start by saying WTF. Dan is still a lost man. He is back to acting like my H. Last week H's friend called to tell me he talked to H and H says nothing has changed, he is still done. This is the same guy that wants to stop by and hasn't seen a lawyer 1 1/2 years after saying he wants out.
My H has said a lot of hurtful things too earlier on in the pile of sh--. For whatever reason they want to lash out and hurt us. Dan doesn't hate you, he may hate what has become of his life and your R, but he is too big of a DAM to express that.
Mike asked a good question...are you done? I know some days I am and some I'm not. My T says I'll keep trying and holding on until the day comes when I am tired of being lonely. I told that to a friend and he said I'll never file and neither will H. I don't agree with that, what I do know is that I want to be truly happy again someday. Right now if that means waiting a little longer for H then so be it. However, I do believe there will come a day when I'm done waiting. You have to decide if you are willing to wait, and if you think Dan will ever get it together. You know this isn't all about you.
One more thing, you have changed and you will change, Dan just wants to say you aren't/won't and use that as an excuse.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
