So anyway H comes totally unglued. He tells me that whenever he puts the kids to bed, they actually go to bed. Why does D refuse to go to bed for me? What do I do on the nights he isn't here? Why did I bring them home at 8 pm when I know that is their bedtime? They shouldn't have been to my mom and dad's for that long...I had not changed one bit, all I talk about is how we can make changes but I had not changed at all, all he asked was for the kids to go to bed at 8 and I brought them home at 8
All that is horse chitt. He knows what the deal is. He should know that when csomehting like that happens with your mom then plans have to be adjusted. He's acting like a child here and not an adult.
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But that we are "fundamentally two very, very different people". He said he doesn't like going to the movies--wow who knew?
If he did not like going to the movies then he should have made another choice..He should have done something else. It was his final decision to go to the movies.
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He used to take me to the movies a lot when we were dating, I suppose he did it just b/c I liked it??
Or to get you?? Maybe??
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He said it was the nicest day of the fall (ok, sure) and I wanted to spend it inside, which meant I didn't "get" him at all. I said not true, the first thing I asked you to do was go for a walk w/me, I would have loved taking a walk around the farm, checking out the cattle, etc....I told H I was always asking about the cows and trying to be more involved in his interests.
H says, "Trying to be involved, you don't fundamentally like what I like you only try to b/c I like it"....I said, No, you know we have talked many times about he first time I looked at you as a possible boyfriend back in high school. The day I passed you in your car and you had your cowboy hat on the passenger seat. I said right then I thought to myself, "I want to be with a cowboy like that." [This was even a dialogue topic at Retro, he knows very well I was attracted to his cowboy-ness]
H says, "You wanted a cowboy to sit on the couch and go to the movies with you"
I don;t rreally get this.. I mean come on..I'm an old country boy...I thought cowboys had a romantic side to them to?? So old cowboy Dan ain't got that?? Lost that has he?? I don't buy it. Dan has the mentality of my way or the highway I think. He loves to think he is in control when he actaully controls very little. He has his M in his hands now and is squeezing the very life out of it.
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We are going to hammer out some details tonight as to how to break it to the kids/scheduling/etc. Funny the last thing he did was gather up his stuff for the dry cleaners. He came in to find me and asked me if I had anything he wanted me to take to the cleaners?
So my last question..it sounds like this is Done?? Are you done?
