Don't know what to do- Please help

[Dr LOve]

Limbo,

I know that we are not supposed to suggest or advertise books to read that are not part of this site.

If I could tell you to read or ask if you had read this book about LOVE I think it is a MUST for anyone going though this. To BEin the place we are in we all know it is TOUGH.
The book I am talking about I read a year ago when this first stated. I started reading it again I NOW see what I was doing that was not getting me anywhere.
This book has taken on a whole new meaning. There is a time to forgive and forget but this needs to happen AFTER our spouse Re commits. If you forgive and forget before your spouse re commits themselves to the marriage then you are telling them what they did was not that bad and you forgive them. That is what I was trying to say earlier.
Yes like Jak58 said he is still at home so there still is hope.
You have been going through this crap longer than me but I will not go on any longer in this limbo. I have made the decision to move on. To start new..
I would like my wife to be in this new chapter of my life with me but she does not need to be. Don't get me wrong I still love my wife and always will. But like you said about your husband "pretending" everything is ok. If I go on I too will be pretending..
But you too will come to a point that you need to tell them... "Hey I love you and will do whatever it takes to make this work. But I need things from you. If you don't feel you can give me what I need then just tell me. I can't wait forever. I need to take care of myself. I need to find someone who can. Life is too short...
Take care lady

Doc