Hi txmom, I feel your pain. My H too seems to be so "in love" with OW. I am also trying to be nice but inside I feel crushed so I am thinking of NC also. I know even with T2L at the beginning had almost no contact with H and it is only now that she had gone into Plan A.
It is a double edge sword...when I see my H alot then I think he pulls back because he is trying to be true to OW, and then when I don't see him like this weekend I feel crushed. I think part of our problem is that we still think they are our husbands. They are but they don't see that.
It might be good to detach for awhile. Don't call/text except for anything with the kids and only when it is absolutely necessary. H is probably getting pressure from OW so H cannot see out of the fog. I am agreeing with T2L, the OW is like an addiction because I could see it with my H. For him to break his daughters heart because "he is not happy" is not just selfish but it is like OW has sucked in his soul.
I am trying to decide the same about "being nice". I know H wants to be my friend. I don't want that. What is really hurtful is that the OW works with both of us. She is in another building but I saw her twice last week. It wrecks me. I just sit there and ask God to give me strength.
How did the state fair actually go? Was it awkward for both of you. You are looking at it from a different perspective than H probably was. He was looking at it as being a Daddy and you were looking at it as being a family and him the husband.
I think by the tone of your post that you have made your decision to detach. I will keep you posted on what I will do also.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
