2008 = Crazy Year (F'd Up 14)

[lost_in_space]

LIS and I are in similar spots rite now from what I have been reading. My wife has said some absolutely horrible things to me lately.


Calling me a loser

Saying she would label me a child molester If I fight for custody

Calling me pathetic

Accusing me of cheating with female friends of ours

She actually made the L sign on her forehead at me yesterday!

It's tough to stand and take that stuff .....why would we want or spouses back after that kinda stuff ....or let them parent our kids!

Carpenter

I think Puppy and others would tell us it is all script.

I am starting to wonder WHY more and more. All we can do is what we think is right.

Don't know if this makes sense, but the more desparate, the more that spews.

Hang in there with whatever you think is right.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Puppy

Does feel good to be in the bed, especially after her comment about reclaiming it.

Heard that W still thinks she is going to Hawaii at Xmas - funny, the people we were supposed to go with are telling folks we are likely not going. The neighbourhood grapevine is REALLY heating up!

Also heard that W took kids to C on her own because I would not go a- funny, don't recall being asked and I was getting recommendations from my C on an independent C to take them to.

Oh well - so it continues. I think the disc between L will heat up about division of property.

Make sure you DOCUMENT that. Make sure you're keeping a log/journal of EVERYTHING. Seriously.

Puppy

[carpenter54]

the nice thing about this BB is it is a log/journal complete with time and date stamps. My Ws BF and some other friends were here for the weekend. Her BFs thoughts about my wife.....she is really messed up/confused rite now. Yesterday my W was spewing so much crap I asked her BF to stand outside while we talked.
Today my W is mostly back to "normal" ....whatever that is. She actually talked kinda nice to me! Tomorrow is another day....one day at a time for those of us in this stage of the game.


LIS
I have a question for ya....is your W so full of anger rite now that you are waiting for her to explode? Does it seem that the most mundane question or task that you or even your kids do that is not "perfect" almost make her flip out?

[lost_in_space]

Carpenter

I think you hit it on the head. I am waiting for the major melt down. I have had the wine ine face and been shoved. Not sure what is next.

[lost_in_space]

Puppy

Does feel good to be in the bed, especially after her comment about reclaiming it.

Heard that W still thinks she is going to Hawaii at Xmas - funny, the people we were supposed to go with are telling folks we are likely not going. The neighbourhood grapevine is REALLY heating up!

Also heard that W took kids to C on her own because I would not go a- funny, don't recall being asked and I was getting recommendations from my C on an independent C to take them to.

Oh well - so it continues. I think the disc between L will heat up about division of property.

Make sure you DOCUMENT that. Make sure you're keeping a log/journal of EVERYTHING. Seriously.

Puppy

Puppy - log is 10 pages and growing. Will add a page this weekend I am sure.

[yenko69]

Not sure what is next.

Whatever comes I know you can handle it. I quit wondering about it. It is to hard to use logic in an illogical situation. I have been really busy this week and trying to catch up. Keep being the best you that you can be. Come by for dinner sometime.

[carpenter54]

LIS

Let me ask you

When the meltdown comes....even if the D comes first....what will you do?
I ask myself this question.....not really sure of the answer.

[carpenter54]

LIS

Let me ask you

When the meltdown comes....even if the D comes first....what will you do?
I ask myself this question.....not really sure of the answer.

[frank_D]

When the meltdown comes....even if the D comes first....what will you do?
I ask myself this question.....not really sure of the answer.

You'll do the right thing.

[yenko69]

Carpenter,

I don't really think their is a sure answer to that question. At the point and time a meltdown comes, if it does, it is hard to know for sure where we are at emotionally and mentally. I am not so sure it is even something to consider right now. Thinking to much about the future without certainty will just pollute the mind and things can change fast. Just my thoughts on it.