To be honest ---I DON'T THINK that many folks who finally re-unite with their spouses have the time or the focus of wanting to get back on the board and share their results. From what I am seeing ---the "coming back together" has many ups and downs and that can take quite a bit of time. By the time the spouse returns ---the MLC issues finally extinquish themselves --"a lot of water has gone under the proverbial bridge" --and quite typically the spouse who stood for the marriage all this time simply wants to get on with a happy life.
I think it would be wonderful if everyone who reunited would share their happiness with all of us ---but in many cases it is very understandable why this doesn't happen.
And yes --Brandnewday --you are right ---it is much harder to have the spouse in the home while in MLC. The good thing is that you have constant contact with the MLC'er --and in some ways that can be beneficial - if your nerves can stand it! I think the Lord gives us the situations that best work for us. In my case --having my H home would have been horrendous. And it certainly would have adversely affected my already compromised health.
In the end ---the Lord knows the best! ---Ottocat
Ottocat, I'm not going to continue batting this back and forth, you have the right to your opinion, and I respect it. I disagree with your belief that many who reunite don't come back. Even if they didn't come back, they develop friendships on this board and I am quite certain they would tell them, and they in turn would relay the good news to all of us here. No Ottocat, the plain cold truth to the matter is this. Once someone enters this awful tunnel, they leave it all behind, with rare exceptions. In saying that, I personnally wish that no one would have to go through this, and I wish everyone could have thier spouses back, I honestly do. Unfortunately, I am afraid that it rarely happens. Perhaps you and Snow will be ones that it happens to! I sincerely mean that, but be prepared to live your own life if it doesn't, and please don't waste your life on someone who doesn't want or love you. I guess those are the 2 biggest lessons I have learned here. I felt like I did all I could to reunite, but in the end, she didn't want it or me. I have accepted that and moved on. I thank God every night that I didn't waste anymore of my life on someone who chose this path. As a result, I am a much happier person and so much more at peace with myself.
