My thread got locked so I have had to start another one.
I think your advise is sound and yu are reading me well. If I tell the children it will be because I don't want them thinking badly of their dad leaving home. Which I guess is protecting the R between H and off spring.
Oh you dont know how much I wish I could behave as if I was not married. I know when I treat him with the respect and not familitarity like I would anyone else things do seem to get better. I just cannot help myself. I think oh its my husband and I treat him like he should be getting me drinks, taking me home , etc etc. Then he goes really quiet and withdraws from me.
So i see it and i just cannot control myself. Then I spend the next few days tip toeing around him. any tips on how to control myself would be very much welcome.
As yet I hav egiven no further thought to telling kids. I am not sure what they know except for the general explanation i gave them ie inapproriate behaviour. I am not sure what could be gained from more info other than to defend H actions. I do not want to be in a position of having no respect from them. I do not think that would be healthy for them or ourdelves as parents. It is hard enough to guide.
