No Communication...Write a letter?

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It is very therapeutic to write a letter. You can keep it or give it to them. Either way proof it several times and hold on to it for a day or two to make sure you are comfortable with what you wrote. I have written letters that are just a part of my journaling that I started when the bomb was dropped and others that I have given to my STBX. Writing a letter allows me to say what I need to in the most articulate way possible, without interruption or loss of thoughts, etc. When you have a discussion, things don't always come out like you wanted them to and/or the other person isn't listening or may just not hear what you are saying. A letter is something they can read over and over. Each time they read it, they probably will get something new out of it. I, also, feel like I spend most of the time not pursuing my STBX and there are times when I really just want to say what I am feeling, even if it falls in the pursuing category! This may or may not be the right thing, but it is important to me that my STBX knows how I feel. I can see that for some it may be wiser not to give the letter to the other person. Of course, some letters are best not given and should stay in your journal or torn up! Whether you hold on to them or give them to your STBX is something you will have to decide for yourself. Good luck!