Not sure what started the names, but really might even be more like 6 years that we've been doing it. I actually really like it when he uses these names now, as they have historically been used very affectionately, and we would often laugh a lot when using them. It's in the tone of voice and facial expression too. He doesn't say anything like this when mad, and neither do I. Right now these names are like "safe" terms of endearment. There are others that are sweeter, but right now they rarely (if ever) come out, like "little" and "princess".
Could be that you're right that down the road we decide that the names aren't adding value, but I think we need to get to a more stable point first where we can actually discuss these kinds of things. I've never mentioned the names to MC because really they don't bother me and are honestly meant in fun from both sides.
My last long-term R was a lot less healthy (well until the bomb anyway:)), but we didn't use names like that. Still, there wasn't a whole lot of love, and in this M, at least pre-bomb, there is a lot of love, and ILYs were used just as frequently as the nicknames.
No worries about bringing it up Daisy. It's always interesting to get an outside perspective on things like this.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
