I've ofttimes posted that if there is anything here that leaves me dazed and confused, still, is the inability to understand how....how...someone can convert from love to utter hate and disgust.
lemme give you my take on this.
I think it starts with a person with low character.
when you meet, its all perfume and roses, and usually, this person of low character has something to gain from you. money, security, a raise in their standard of living, so hell yeah, lets get married.
every thing starts off just peachy.
a few kids, mortgage, responsibility. then the newness wears off. the one with the low character mind you, is generally living better than they could do on their own and believes that they accomplished this by themselves. they get bored, they think they deserve better, and YOU are what is standing in the way of their happiness. you bastard.
then the distancing begins, the cold treatment, the "something is missing" they need to go find themselves, but strangely, it's going to require your money, and another person, or three, to find.
They lie, you find out. you're satan. they secretly date, you find out. you're satan.
then it gets to the point, you breathe. you're satan.
in their mind, you have no more use to them, you're just a roadblock who won't move on and let them be happy.
you bastard!
you try and save the family at great cost to your own well being, to protect your kids, to shield them, to save the financial well being, to make sure the kids have a solid home life.
but what you don't see is that all of this is happening because of you.
remember when their second cousin, twice removed, was in a car accident? you didn't comfort her/him. you were on the computer, or away at work. you let them down. and now you and the whole family must pay.
Then the person of low character goes off on their own, leaving you to piece back the lives of your family, you struggle, you hurt, but you survive. you finally see some light. you're feeling good about the future. then, as sure as banannas are yellow, the low C person re enters the picture.
seems Mr or Ms soul mate didn't work out, and thier own lack of skills sure made it hard to live like they were accustomed to. they're out of options. so back to ole reliable till they find greener pastures.
rinse and repeat.
anyone relate to this?
I never bought the "tunnel" bit because their are too many people who had crappy childhoods, and who grew to be people of honor, who sacrificed self for the greater good.
people with character, good character, do what is right.
those with low character, well, they cause the need for BBs like this one.
