I'm catching up with you. While I think it is good that you are back in the house I have to say that I am concerned with the way your h is treating you. The things you say that he says to you seem abusive to me. I know you say that some of the names are "pet names" but ouch. Doesn't that bother you somewhere inside? I know you are trying to make this work and stay positive and happy but sweetie this man is being rude to you and purposly trying to hurt you. I feel like he is taking advantage of the situation and you are letting him get away with it. I know DBing is kind of this way but it feels to me like it is getting out of hand. I don't really have much advice. I just want you to really keep your eyes open and pay very close attention to everything being said. Don't let him use you as a verbal punching bag to release his frustration on. That is abuse and in that case you need to get out. IMHO.
Sorry I cannot be more positive. I am happy for you in that you are home again and feeling more comfortable that you were in Poland but at what price? What about your self respect and dignity?
I agree with Ali though, no more pushing the physical contact. I wouldn't even ML with this man until he can talk nice to you. Even just in a basic, friendly way.
Just my opinion. I hope it doesn't upset you. I care about you and your wellbeing and don't want you to lose sight of taking care of your own mental health in the name of DBing.
Take care honey! I'll check in again soon. Please let me know if I am out of line.
