My situation #5

[steady]

marriedCrazy,

First thing is thanks for responding to my thread. I'm sorry that you're having to go through what you are going through. It's a hard situation to live inside of.

I'm a recovering alcoholic myself. I went to AA and was sober for 17 years. When I met my W she was drinking heavy due to a very stressful situation she was in. I was in it also but stayed sober. When we got together she didn't drink at all. About 3 years ago we started drinking together and it would be an understatement to say it caused more problems between us. Our biggest blowouts were when we were both drinking.

I understand how a drunk has to hit a bottom. The first time I stopped drinking my bottom wasn't that deep. I was lucky. This time around it was the bomb plus a diagnosis of bipolar that woke me up again.

I know all attempts to show someone they have a drinking problem are futile. In fact, it makes them resent you more and actually has an effect of increasing the consumption. I know it's an escape mechanism for people who don't know how to deal with the reality of their life.

I'm going to bring the issue up in MC tommorrow. Sometimes it helps to hear it from a third party. Of course hearing it from me doesn't do any good.

I know I have to let it go. Last night I did just that. Let it go and acted pleasant towards her. I won't enable it, but I won't confront it either. If she wakes up it's going to be because she wakes up, not due to me trying to open her eyes.

Thanks again for stopping by.