Wow whatdidido. I really admire your courage, maturity, and passion. I think you truly are an inspiration to divorce busters everywhere.
The really courageous heroes in these affairs aren't the left behind spouses, even though the come a close second. Its people like you who are caught in a very deep emotional pit and find their way out with their integrity intact.
I don't understand what the formula is to offer up courage like yours to all the others out there having affairs, but you truly are a gem. Your husband is very fortunate to have you.
I can imagine you beat yourself up occasionally, but to be perfectly honest, there's no reason to, there's no reason for etiehr of you to do anything but love one another.
My partner is still in "the fog", and I would really love to learn how to help them understand they aren't in their right mind when they are wrapped up in some sleazy affair. But they just won't hear it until a LOT of damage is done apparently. Its looking like the only thing that wakes these people up is serious damage that was at their hands.
