Snow, let me say a few things here. 1st you made a comment that I sound "bitter" and I "take it out on you guys" LOL No, in fact, I am not bitter, on the contrary, I have let go of a lot of things from the past. I can assure you that I am not taking anything out on anyone. You also made the statement "God wins in an MLC" I would like to know how God wins in something like that. Snow, the Lord gave us all brains with the ability to make choices. With that being said, I do believe that God allows us to choose our own destiny, he says it over and over in the Bible, and at the end of days he will render judgement based on those choices. Anyway, Snow, I am terribly sorry if I hurt your feelings with my statements, I am just the type of person that if you expect the worst, the best is a pleasant suprise. You were also right when you said that MLC is different in situations, I think I pointed out that SOME spouses do return, however many more do not. Snow, you also made this statement " After all of this MLC stuff, the last thing people want to do is come back on this board and talk about it" Come on Snow! If I were fighting for my marriage, it would be the FIRST thing I would want to do! Check out the MLC successes on this page, I think there are like 30 or 35 cases of reunion, a few, but not a huge number. Hopefully you will be number 36 on that thread!