I remember when I had that talk and my moment of "decision". It takes a lot of stregnth but after that you realise that life goes on, and I felt a great emotion of relief.
Lola, dont be afraid of the future. NEVER question yourself again. I was reading yoru previous posts and wanted to hit you on the head. What our Ss decide should NOT define who we are and what we are worth. Like it or not, you have your own "value" and accountability about how your life turns out. Scary, huh? But what a great sense of control and power... Dont give away that power to anyone. No matter how much you love them.