Hi Sam, I'm Sandi.....an almost WAW. I had been where your wife was for a very long time without OM involved at all, so it doesn't have to mean there is another person. However, with her new look......it will be very tempting to her b/c you can bet she is getting the attention from other men. She will like that a lot since she had low self-esteem!
I had to think about your comments for a little while, to let them sink in. Since she lost the weight, she has been dressing more sexy, at first it was maybe a little TOO much for just working. And yes, she does seem to get a boost from some of that attention. However, it also makes her uncomfortable. About 20 years ago, she was the victim of a sexual attack and she has told me a long time ago (before any of the current issues arose) that that kind of attention makes her feel uncomfortable (like it could happen again). Most of the recent events of male attention she has told me about happened more than 4 months ago and she tells me that she got out of that place as quick as she could. I think that some of these events actually have caused her to dress a little more conservatively now. I still think she looks incredible and I tell her so on a regular basis (it's one of my 180's). She's been trying to lose weight for a long time and now she's done it and I have told her I am proud of her.
Another thought: maybe losing the weight got her self-confidence up just far enough to gather the courage to give me the ILYBNILWY talk?
